What are tantrums?
Tantrums can consist of a spectacular explosion of frustration or anger on your child. Depending on the situation, tantrums can last anywhere between a few seconds to several minutes.
You might find your child shouting, crying, stomping, kicking or just flailing about. If the tantrum gets too aggressive, the child might end up holding their breath, vomiting, or breaking things around them.
Why do tantrums occur?
Tantrums are quite common among preschoolers and toddler. They can often get out of control and difficult to handle. Toddlers use tantrums as a way to express their feelings.
This is because their social and emotional development is just at a beginning, and they need a way to vent out all of their big feelings.
They help children deal with their frustrations and allow them a release for all the feelings they cannot express in words. They help them manage their feelings by expressing them and in turn allow them to understand what is happening around them.
How to deal with the tantrums?
Identify the cause:
It is important for the parent to gauge why exactly the child is experiencing a tantrum. Is it a sudden change in the environment, is it uncomfortable clothes, is it hunger or tiredness? Once you’re able to identify the cause, you can decide how you eliminate that cause from the environment and help calm down the tantrum.
It is essential that you stay calm in handling your child’s feelings. If you end up getting angry or aggressive, it’ll make the tantrum much worse and more difficult to cope with. Moreover, make sure to keep you voice calm and slow – and then take action smoothly and deliberately.
Encourage your child to name the problem
This will help you in the long run by giving the child the ability to find a word for their discomfort. Every time they experience the same discomfort, you’ll be able to identify it instantly and act accordingly. Moreover, it would contribute to the long-term social and development of your child by teaching them that they can express their feelings via words.
Try to see if waiting it out helps:
Not all tantrums are of the same intensity, or last the same time. It can often help to just wait the tantrum out instead of intervening and making the situation worse. If you can identify a certain pattern in your child’s tantrum and realize that it not last very long, it is better to stay put and wait it out. If the tantrum gets more aggressive with time, however, it is time to intervene.
Be consistent in the way you approach the tantrum
It is important to make sure you can identify the different types of tantrums you kids has over time, and decide on the approach you will have for each. This way, the child will get used to calming down by getting whatever it is that they want and you’ll have a long-term technique to calming the tantrums down.
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